This is the ninth in a series of articles that conference attendees will receive to reinforce what they learned at Soar Higher 2005.
To read the first article by Kristine Sexter,
To read the second article by Bob Oros, click here.
To read the third article by Ron Meyers, click here.
To read the fourth article by Darren LaCroix, click here.
To read the fifth article by Carrie Perrien Smith, click here.
To read the sixth article by Mary Pryor, click here.
To read the seventh article by Tom Bach, click here.
To read the eighth article by Willie Johnson, click here.
On November 16, Walt Pavlo was featured in USA Today. To see the article, click here.
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|Listening well to others is one of the most powerful communication skills
you can develop. Listening is a powerful “human moment” between two people
that requires mental energy, discipline, and focus. When you are really
paying attention to what the other person is saying and feeling, they will
feel the energy and respond. Together the two of you create a powerful
“force field” of communication.
Unfortunately, the power of effective listening and how it effects good communication is highly underestimated. Just because you were born with two ears and the ability to hear, doesn’t mean you are automatically a good listener. Listening is not instinctive. You were born with hands but that doesn’t mean you can play the piano. You were born with feet but that doesn’t mean you can tap dance. Playing the piano and tap dancing are learned skills. To develop these skills, you must learn specific techniques and then practice them until you develop a certain level of skill. It’s the same with listening. To be an effective listener, you have to commit to being a good listener and then practice, practice, practice.
It’s important to remember that we all have a deep desire to be acknowledged and validated by others. We need to feel that we are being HEARD and to know that others care enough to listen to what we have to say. We need to know that our words are valued.
There are many benefits to being a good listener. First of all, effective listening decreases the chances of miscommunication. It improves communication and consequently decreases tension and stress. It encourages mutual respect, cooperation, support, and teamwork. It is also a powerful confrontation reduction skill. Effective listening allows real issues to surface.
If you master the skill of listening, you have mastered the powerful core of communication, connection and caring that can literally transform conversations and relationships.
So, how good of a listener are you? Do you interrupt others before they’re finished speaking? Do you multi-task while others are talking to you? Could you improve your communication with others by improving how you listen to them? If so, here are three simple steps that can help you become an effective listener. Note that I said simple, not easy. Good listening habits take energy, commitment, and practice, practice, practice!
Step #1 STOP
Step #2 LOOK
Steps #3 LISTEN
One last thing: It’s important to remember that every time you talk or listen to another person, you have the opportunity to either build or tear down that relationship by the words you choose, your tone of voice, and your actions. AND … actions most certainly include the actions you take when listening to others!